Fatherhood: A Man As Husband
Marriage brings status satisfaction to a man. He expects marriage to provide some of the feelings of importance that he craves. When a child enters the scene, a husband quickly learns that the attention he once had all to himself must now be divided. A new father must be sufficiently mature to recognize that when his wife shares her love with his child, she does not love him any less. Father and child are not in competition for a woman’s affections.
Because feelings of this nature can easily erupt, it becomes essential that husband and wife schedule occasions to be together without interference from a child. They must set aside time and money for leisure activities outside the home if they wish to maintain their identity as a couple and to rekindle the fires of romance that tend to dwindle or get lost in a myriad of complex responsibilities. A couple should schedule such occasions for themselves at least twice a month. If you absolutely cannot afford a babysitter, trade babysitting tasks with another couple. Select activities that appeal to both of you. Go for a drive, a picnic or a swim. Enjoy yourselves, laugh, dream big dreams. Forget your problems. Hold hands and talk of common interests. Concentrate on each other. Build a better future for yourselves. You and your spouse will never regret time spent like this.
Someone has said that the most important thing a man can do for his children is to love his wife. He was correct. A good father is first and foremost a good husband. When a man respects his wife as a person in her own right, when he remains sensitive to her moods, and when he regards her role in the home as important as his, the home atmosphere is sure to be friendly and cooperative. Young personalities thrive in such surroundings. Husband, love your wife. Tell her that you cherish the way she looks and the she is as lovely as the day you married her. Express your love through small acts of chivalry, compliments, appreciation of her devotion in the home, and thoughtful remembrances such as flowers, cards or a dinner out. Keep the spark of affection glowing in your marriage. A woman can tolerate a great deal if she knows that her husband still considers her his sweetheart. Make no mistake about it. Daily expressions of romantic attention are vital to a woman’s existence. Without constant reassurance of her husband’s affection, she will not be able to meet as readily the needs of the child. A father who gives this kind of emotional support will find that his efforts are well rewarded, even though at times his strength may be sorely taxed.
An attentive husband presents a proper picture of a man’s role to both sons and daughters. The need for a strong husband/father image is greater than ever in today’s fast pace where family members are being pulled in every direction away from the home. School, church, community activities, jobs, recreational activities, peers and the mass media all beckon for attention at the same time. The male plays a strong role in holding a family together.