How to Talk to Your Child About Sex
Are you going to be ready when your child comes to you for ‘the sex talk‘? What are you going to say? If you want to be sure your child is prepared for this time in their lives and that they go into it with the tools they will need then you will want to be prepared and ready for their questions.
1. Teachable moments-
Starting when they are babies children are curious about their various body parts. It will be easiest to explain these things when the opportunity arises. For instance when a relative is pregnant there is the perfect occasion to explain where babies come from.
It is smart to begin their knowledge early and help them to be comfortable about any questions they may have.
A Sex Ed Program at school is the perfect time to hold several set down sessions at home and make sure your child knows all he needs to about this subject. Look for a age appropriate book for your child to review and extend what has already been taught. Don’t be afraid you are giving your child permission to have sex but that you are arming them with all the needed information they will need to make smart decisions when such a situation arises.
3. How to act-
When your child comes to you with questions don’t clam up or break into a sweat. You want your child to feel comfortable in talking about these things. You want the child to feel in years to come that they can be comfortable coming to you. Stay emotionally neutral and answer their questions calmly so as years go by they trust you to be someone they can approach with their questions. Being a good role model is a good basis for appropriate behavior.
4. Developmental Level-
Be sure to use appropriate language and words the child can understand. Be mindful of what they are really ready to understand. Don’t go into a panicky physiology lesson. Answer specific questions and don’t go into long and boring detail. You will want to start an ongoing conversation that will continue and not necessarily be about the nuts and bolts but establish an ongoing dialogue that continues as they grow.
5. A child’s true needs-.
They may want to know more from you than just the basics and it may include feelings and relationships. This is where the internet or friends just can’t fill the bill. Basically they want to know that it is okay to ask questions about themselves. Helping them to feel comfortable about their bodies and their genitals is the key.