Maturity or Hypocrisy?
Grownups are the biggest hypocrites of all. I remember as a child calling my father out on something. He would tell me not to do though I would catch him doing it. Upon pointing this out to him, he would reply in his angry tone, “Do as I say, not as I do.” Really? As adults we claim that we want to set a good example for our children to follow and yet we do everything that we teach them not to do. Now don’t get me wrong. There are those out there that would give you the shirt right off of their backs to prove that they are the righteous and holy types. This article will give you examples that may make you think who is really the grownup and who the child is.
One of the first things we teach our children is how to share. The fights are always the same. "He took my dolly," or "She stole my hot wheels." We tell them to play nice and share their toys. You already know where this is going don’t you? As grownups when a neighbor asks to borrow your lawn mower or your teenage daughter asks to borrow your car because it looks nicer how many grownups do you think actually say yes? Statistically, I am not sure myself as this is one of those subjects that grownups constantly fight about. Some neighbors would say sure but to please bring it back in the same condition. Hardly any parent would say yes, though again there is a slight chance of it happening.
The point being made is that once we become adults, we forget everything we are taught as children. Our virtues and morals go right out the door. We are essentially just an evolved teenager with the same mind set. We are older now. We have the good job and make all the money. We own the house so we are in charge. Everything is a power or control issue. This is only important to establish the grounds for teaching the virtues and morals, however once that is done we should still be applying that which we are now responsible for passing on to our children.
When a child is hurt or has a toy broken by accident by a sibling or friend what do we teach them to do? "Forgive and forget." Most children do this without being taught anyway and go right back to playing with one another so long as the game is still fun. As adults if someone hits our car we sue them in court. If someone slanders our name we sue them in court. If someone wrecks our property by accident again we sue them. Why do we not apply the, forgive and forget principle as adults? Some people make minor mistakes and we ridicule them.
In Oregon we have measure 11 which holds criminals accountable for their crimes and forces them to serve the maximum sentence for violent crimes. Children are also written into this measure. If they commit a misguided criminal act and are above the age of 14, they may be incarcerated in prison with grown adults that can influence their young minds and ensure they never change. Prison is for adults. Juvenile hall is for children. It’s time to practice what we preach people. Rise above the chaos. Get your heads out of the clouds and see the truth.
Article by Kevin C Davison
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